Dear Tom,                                                                                                         8-18-97

    It won't be long until your adventure in Hope Valley all have ended.  I trust you made a few good friends and the staff there will have been of immense value in helping you deal with your addiction.  I know it has been a real eye opener for me and I have learned a great deal in understanding substance abuse--which I feel strongly now should be viewed as a family disease.
    On one hand, I know that if our own family had not been embroiled in divorce, our own addictions, which I'm sure confused you, and we had been this wholesome, happy family, the odds of your embracing narcotics would be lessened.  Unfortunately, that was not the case, but the fact is that you decided to do drugs.  We didn't make you...you did it on your own.
    Now, you have found out that you have the disease of addiction.  I need to know how I am going to overcome your past abuse of my trust.
    You have four choices concerning where you are going to live for the short term.  First is jail, which you might get a stay in thanks to violating your parole.  Second is your mom's, third is with me and fourth is somewhere else.
    Then the question will be you working sufficiently enough to reduce the significant amount of indebtedness you've acquired.  I think that with a full time and part time job that it will only take a matter of months to become financially stable.  This is a position that, given your recent history, you should feel very fortunate (thanks to your mom and I) for you to be in.  Working will solve another problem you will have, which is excess time that makes it too easy to slide back into drug abuse.
    Finally, you will have to think long term.  What's a career to go after?  Then there's family love, life and a whole host of wonderful decisions that only those in control have the courage to face.
    Trust me son, none of this is rocket scientist stuff.  It's logical, it requires the discipline to say no and the courage of knowing when to say yes.
    Anyway, back to a plan.  Assuming you won't go to jail, you will need a place to stay.  If you want to stay at my house, you can for 3 months.  There will be some rules, which are:

    Violation of any of the rules will result in eviction.  I have learned that my easy going nature and willingness to cover you while you are irresponsible makes it too easy for you to continue being irresponsible.  I can promise you that I won't contribute one cent to any efforts by you to continue abusing yourself.  It'll hurt me to watch you hurt yourself but I promise that I'll not make the mistakes of "enabling" that I've done in the past.
    In any event, I'm looking forward to seeing you.  Sherrill is too and she wants you to work 40 hours so that's something you will have to decide on very quickly.
    See ya Saturday!!!!

                            Love ya!
                            Dad
 


Letter was composed by Michael Jones just before Tommy returned from Hope Valley